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Title: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Allen Carter on November 20, 2010, 01:16 AM
There are quite a few couples who met because they were both into kiting. A very nice situation for sure. In my case I met my wife simply because I was a kiter. You could say we met because of WSIKF, but she wasn't there, had never even heard of it.

To start, I had actually met her once before, but that just serves to illustrate the influence of kiting. The first time our paths crossed there was no spark, we probably would have forgotten all about ever meeting each other. 

In early September 2000 I had just gotten back for an amazing week at WSIKF and went to dinner with a group of friends. I was describing the trip, the people and the event to an interested, or at least curious, group around a big table. A woman I had been introduced to a few months before was sitting across from me. She asked a few polite questions but was clearly thinking "what the hell is this guy talking about?". As we left the table she turned and I noticed for the first time what beautiful hair she had.

A week later, most of the same group met up again and She was there. The girl with all that gorgeous blond hair had been in my thoughts more than once during the week. I sort of jockeyed for position as we all came to the table and ended up sitting next to her. Yes, I was 36 years old and it gets worse. :-)

I don't recall anything about the dinner or anyone else at the table. We talked like old friends and new lovers all at the same time. At some point, feeling like a kid but in a very good way, I reached under the table and took her hand. She didn't even flinch, just held my hand like we'd been together 50 years. That very night we ended up walking on the beach under a full moon. September 15 2000.

The rest, as they say, is history. We were married on the beach September 15 2002.

Sometime after we had been a couple for a while we were talking about how we met. Amy agreed that there was nothing at all when we were first introduced. She had indeed forgotten all about me by the time we met again at dinner. She said it was the enthusiasm and passion with which I described the kite festival that caught her attention. She had no idea what I was talking about, but thought it was neat to see someone who was obviously getting so much out of their hobby, no matter how weird.

She too had thought of me before the next dinner and says she was the one jockeying for position to sit next to me. She recalled freezing and thinking ďOh my godĒ when I took her hand, but also remembers it felt like our hands were made for each other.

This year we celebrated 10 years together. Last weekend we had a belated anniversary getaway on the same beach we walked on that first night.

Early Thursday morning my beautiful wife Amy died in her sleep. We donít yet know why, but she had a number of serious health issues and was on a large number or medications.

Iím back to where I was 10 years ago, a single dad. But, I still have kiting and the healing power of wind and sky.
Deepest thanks to all my friends who have sent email or posted on Facebook.


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Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Jynx on November 20, 2010, 01:38 AM
...at times like this I wish I could find the words to express my sympathies...

You had what many of us dream of... and now you must deal with the loss. I hope all the warm memories of Amy will help you through this most difficult time, and those same memories bring a smile to your face when time permits.

Thinking of you,
Jynx


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: KiteLife on November 20, 2010, 01:44 AM
Short on words myself... I feel both joy and sadness reading your words.

My heart goes out to you Allen, deeply.

TK weeps for you both, me too.

We'll do our best to remember, enjoy every day and moment, whenever possible.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: thief on November 20, 2010, 03:55 AM
Allen:
We are very sorry to hear about losing your love.   Best of wishes for all of you out there in this time.   She will be watching you from the level of the kites forever.

r&b


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: RoyReed on November 20, 2010, 04:12 AM
Allen, we've never met other than in this forum but my thoughts and tears are with you.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: kiteking on November 20, 2010, 04:44 AM
Allen,

I was so sorry to hear about Amy's passing, then reading your words made me feel better knowing that you had such a great connection.

My thoughts and prayers are with you


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Bob D on November 20, 2010, 04:58 AM
One of my wife's best friends died last year from a hemorrhagic stroke. She was 52. She'd only been married a short time too - 10 years or less - but she and her husband were meant for each other. She spent a lot of years alone before she was married and I believe that the last years of her life was a blessing. It's a tragedy that I would never want to have to go through but the lives of her and her husband were enriched by knowing each other. I can't imagine what it must be like for you and there are no words to take the pain away but know that our thoughts are with you. 


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: mooniewife on November 20, 2010, 05:05 AM
Allen,   What a beautiful story you tell, it leaves no doubt as to what you were really passionate about.   What a gift each of you enjoyed.   You will never really lose Amy, as she is so obviously in your heart.    My heart goes out to you.   Holly


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: jaydub on November 20, 2010, 05:18 AM
Allen,

Much better to have 10 years of a wonderful loving relationship then a much longer one that's become mundane.

Nobody will ever be able to take away those 10 years away from you.

Our thoughts are with you.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: mikenchico on November 20, 2010, 05:29 AM
We were shocked when I read your post on facebook, speechless, although we've never met your family. Thanks for sharing, we feel more of a connection as we share your loss now. Our thoughts are with you Allen and your girls.

Mike & Rhonda


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: RobB on November 20, 2010, 05:32 AM
Allen,
Thank you for sharing the story of you two meeting, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you guys had a great time together, I can't imagine what you're going through, but I wish you the strength to deal with this terrible blow.
~Rob. (obviously at a loss for words, too.)


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Jeepster on November 20, 2010, 06:03 AM
Allen, my heart goes out to you.

-tom


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: stapp59 on November 20, 2010, 08:02 AM
 :( :( Sorry to hear Allen.  You tell a touching story.  In a world where we often take each other for granted, you obviously appreciated your wife.

Steve


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: John Welden on November 20, 2010, 08:22 AM
Alan,

You are an amazing person and I deeply hope you can keep pushing and live the rest of your life out the best you can.  

I'll be thinking of you when I'm out flying kites today.

John


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: kiteclique on November 20, 2010, 08:26 AM

Desperately sad news, my deepest sympathies.

-Frazer


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Craig on November 20, 2010, 08:54 AM
Lovely story, sad ending, sorry for your loss.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Hadge on November 20, 2010, 08:58 AM
So sorry to hear your sad news Allen. My thoughts are with you.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: MtnFlyer on November 20, 2010, 09:00 AM
Allen, my deepest sympathies go out to you for your loss.

But, as the wind, true love never really ends and it sounds as though you and Amy were fortunate to have had that experience and blessing. Best wishes to your entire family.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: oyehut1955 on November 20, 2010, 09:13 AM
You are right Allen she does have gorgeous hair and a smile that lights up the whole picture..  I am so happy that you two found each other and were able to share such good years together..  so many people never find what you had..   You really aren't back where you started tho..  you are so much more because of what the two of you shared..  you have grown in ways you will find yourself discovering as the years go by..  all because of what she brought to your life..  it's all those little things that add up tp that great love that will live on forever.

I am sure thats Amy would wish for you and the girls to have peace with her passing, she is in the hands of another great love now.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Many smiles to you..
debbie


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Old Greebo on November 20, 2010, 09:19 AM
How beautiful, Allen.
Remember the love, and keep hold of it.  It's still there.
Sympathies ...


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Gardner on November 20, 2010, 09:48 AM
Allen,

After reading your story, words cannot express my sympathy for you and your family.

Gardner


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: st3307 on November 20, 2010, 10:55 AM
Allen  My condolences


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: David Cathey on November 20, 2010, 12:03 PM
My deepest sympathies Allen for your loss.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: lylenc on November 20, 2010, 05:55 PM
You were blessed with 10 years in life and will be blessed with many more to come in spirit. Thank you for sharing the beautiful story of your meeting; it brought me smiles and a sense of joy and love you two shared.

I agree with Debbie that you are not back to where you started. Life with Amy has given you much to carry on with life. You've grown in many ways that may not even be realized now.

My sympathies are added to the many others. May you and your family have strength, hope, and love during this time of grief and transition.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: adx1592 on November 20, 2010, 06:07 PM
Allen,
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. Like the rest have said, you tell a touching story.
My thoughts and smiles are with you during this difficult time.



Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Victrinia Ridgeway on November 20, 2010, 07:01 PM
I too have married the love of my life... If I should leave this world first, I hope I will be remembered with such obvious love, that the story would move hearts as mine has been moved by your love for your wife. My husband told me what this thread was about before I read it, because he knew my heart would break and he wanted me to be prepared for that. Being loved, and having the chance to love in the way that you did is the greatest gift any of us could ever ask for. All the wealth and treasure in the world can not compare.

I don't think we've had a chance to get to know each other yet... I'm new of course... but I share in the sadness of your loss and I am full of gratitude that you shared this with us. Giving us the chance to support you in this time. May you feel in these many messages, the love and support of the community and may it bring you comfort in the days ahead.

Yours most sincerely,

Victrinia


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: DonCrash on November 20, 2010, 10:39 PM
Wishes and Prayers to you Allen, your family and hers.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Dano on November 20, 2010, 11:01 PM
I'm so sorry to be reading this this right now my friend.

No words can say what i feel.

i am so sorry.

-dan


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: 50flyer on November 21, 2010, 03:20 AM
Allen,

I'm so sorry to hear about the sad  news of  your wife.


Bob M


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: inewham on November 21, 2010, 03:57 AM
I too am lost for words, you have my deepest sympathy.
My thoughts are with you and I wish you all the strength in the world at this difficult time.

Ian


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Geoffrey Platt on November 21, 2010, 04:07 AM
What a beautiful story. I am sure she would be very proud. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: WinterDaze on November 21, 2010, 04:59 AM
Thank you Allan...

truely

Shannon


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: AhMayzon on November 21, 2010, 09:04 PM
Beautiful story Allen.
I was shocked to see this on Facebook, and am at a loss of what to say, other than you and your family have my deepest sympathy.

Donna


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: grasshopper on November 22, 2010, 08:28 AM
Allen, even though we have never met, your beautiful love story has touched my heart. I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you, your daughters, and Amy's family. May the Lord give you all strength and peace to get through the holidays and beyond. Know you have support from your kiting family here, as well.

Linda


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: moegeo on November 22, 2010, 06:51 PM
Allen my friend,
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. When I saw this on facebook I called Shannon...
I don't have the words.
Take care buddy, we're all thinking of you.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: cbs2010 on November 22, 2010, 07:35 PM
Sorry for your loss Allen.

"When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight."

- Kahlil Gibran


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: DD on November 22, 2010, 07:44 PM
As many have said, no words i can type will help.
Keeping you and the family in my prayers


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: rncembal on November 23, 2010, 03:02 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had no clue that what started as a great story was heading where it ended. It also touches me about the salvation found in our kiting vocation. We forget the soothing aspect of simple flight. I will loft one for Amy and love.
Rob


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: kiteman on November 23, 2010, 04:52 PM
It reminds me of the movie Love Story. Allen, you a truly a lucky man to have had her for these years. I am very sorry for your loss. Keep on truckin, a good man like yourself will find someone else!


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: david barnby on November 24, 2010, 01:34 AM
barnbys read your post this morning - we remembered the lovely email she sent to robbie

he picked up his guitar before rushing off to school : From Robbie to Amy (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W7OXpplfwyE#ws)

lets fly one together soon Allen


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: RonG on November 24, 2010, 09:27 AM
Allen, I haven't been on the forum in a while but someone pointed me to this thread.  I don't think I can add anything that hasn't already been said here, but Steph and I both want to offer you our deepest condolences on your profound loss.  Our paths haven't crossed in a long time, but you're one of the nicest people we've met in kiting, and we hope for you the inner strength to get you through this.


Title: Re: How I Met My Wife
Post by: Allen Carter on November 24, 2010, 10:21 AM
Thank you all for the kind words, good advice and support.

I've been trying to do as many "normal" things as possible during this crazy time, and yesterday I found myself posting on GWTW and BlueMoon. That may not be the best measure, but I am doing OK.

Thank you especially to Steve for making this a place I could feel comfortable making a very personal, way off topic post about Amy.

Thanks also to those who have sent cards.

As for David and Robbie, I'm just overwhelmed. Just beautiful. Deeep, deep thanks.

The back story is that maybe a couple of year's ago David's son Robbie started making videos of his guitar playing. Amy overheard one I was playing and asked about it. Soon she had seen all the videos and was asking me for David & Robbie's email address. She sent Robbie some enthusistic fan mail. A classic Amy story.